Some of the small towns and villages still frown upon inter-caste or love marriages. On the other hand, the youngsters dwelling in big cities suffer from the agony of short-term love. Stuck between the conservative and modern way of society, the young generation is finding it hard to get ‘true love’. While the older generations tend to blame it on Western influence, a closer look reveals that rebels have always existed since time immemorial.

Where it is a sin to ‘fall in love’

Even though living in the 21st century, India harbors regions where inter-caste couples are killed in the name of ‘honour’.

In a land where gods and religious leaders preached love and peace, innocent youth are punished for falling in love. We live in a free country but cannot marry out of free will. For centuries, there have been couples who dared to defy the conservative society and paid a terrible price.

Till today, runaway couples have to seek protection from courts in order to save their lives. Inter-religion couples often face banishment from their families and villages for daring to go against the societal norms. But not everyone has the courage to go against the deep-rooted ethos of the Indian society.

A survey reveals that more than 50% of the young Indians still prefer to have an arranged marriage to prevent any irksome confrontation with the society.

Even worse, India still has areas where even choosing a life partner yourself can land you in trouble, irrespective of the religious or caste rules. The list could go on if we look at the fact that even child-marriages are practiced in some backward areas.

We say we live in a progressive society yet hear about numerous cases of ‘honour killing’ being encouraged by community/caste groups like Khaps.

Recently, the Supreme Court’s order to Khap panchayats to not intervene in a marriage between two consenting adults is a move in the right direction. But changing mindsets requires more than just laws.

In the era of short-term associations

While one part of India struggles to gain the agreement of the society, the other part of India fails to settle for a long-term commitment in their fast-paced life.

In a quest to find love, youngsters switch from one person to another yet suffer the pangs of discontentment.

The growing pressures of modern lifestyle leave them with little patience to form long term bonds. The young Indians in big cities and metros are more inclined to form shallow and meaningless bonds for short-term joy. The lack of time and relationships being weighed down by logic have made bonds more fragile than ever. On the other hand, the same youth later settle for the partner chosen by their parents ending up in hollow marriages. After all, superficial relationships do not lend them enough courage and patience to convince their conservative families.